I may be Catholic now, but when I talk about my church family, I’m still referring to the Presbyterian church I grew up in. I’ve tried to ease into a Catholic community, but it’s not the same. My home church and my church family are somewhere else from where I worship. It’s not that either church is lacking in either aspect, but rather that I am unwilling to let go of the community I grew up in or of the faith I have in the Catholic Church.
Healthy churches
have to provide both community and worship. The more I think about it, the more
intertwined the two are. I can go into a church every Sunday for years, but
without sticking around, meeting people, getting involved outside of worship,
I’m not experiencing the true community of the church. Christians are called to
be a community, to work together, to live together. Avoiding the community
aspect is trying to make a communal exercise an individual one. It’s part of
Western culture to focus on the individual, and it’s easy to fall in the trap
of “what is the church doing for me?” That question leads to the coffee shop,
praise concert, generationally-fractured type of church that markets worship to
a variety of demographics. The justification is that marketing gets people in
the doors. But what kind of community grows out of niche marketing? Being part
of a church community should mean interacting with people who I have nothing in
common with, but who I still love as my family. It should make me ask “what am
I doing for the church?”
And then
there is worship. As a church, we come together to worship God. Our focus on
the holy is what differentiates the church from a social club. We can’t let
worship become just another service offered, somewhere between family movie
night and the quilting club. In the church newsletter last week, the pastor
wrote, “On any given Sunday, the sermon may bomb, the anthem may falter or we
may not feel anything special. Yet sustaining worship over time builds a rich
harvest of good into us that we would not otherwise receive…God deserves our
worship because God is God, and we are God’s creatures, made to live in union
with the divine.”
Even when
the feelings of peace or community or understanding aren’t there, God is. It’s
important for our spiritual health to keep going, keep worshiping, keep
fellowshipping. Worship should be the height of community. We come together to
be silent, to pray, to focus solely on God. And afterword, we share a meal.