Thankful Thursday


It’s so easy to be thankful this year. Because it’s been a hell of a year. But in the chaos you really see the value of each blessing. I’m extra thankful now.

For health
easy access to food
a warm, safe shelter
a job
family
the rare embrace of a hug
friends
information and ability to make sound decisions
the right to vote
access to the sacraments
books
friends’ cute babies
bubble baths.

Untied Rituals

Over the past few weeks I’ve become more and more concerned about the divide in America. It is no longer a division of ideologies but of truth itself. Malicious disinformation is creating a separate culture. We have no agreed upon facts, no agreed upon history, no agreed upon reality. There is a sizable portion of the country who doesn’t believe in the result of the election, who think multiple counties and states and voting machines and poll workers and judges are all coordinated against them. They believe, after years of packing the courts, that some court decision will sweep in and save them from the election results (though as of now, 34 cases have dismissed for lack of evidence). They call themselves patriots, but they want their king over democracy. How can a democratic republic operate if a sizable group refuses to acknowledge the will of the people and doesn’t respect such fundamental values as the Constitution, voting, and the transfer of power? We can’t even get to arguing about issues if the entire system for peacefully finding resolutions is broken.  

I think one problem lending to this mess is the lack of ritual in our lives. We have no shared culture, no shared understanding of sacred ties that bind. We seek out what we please, and bind ourselves to those identities. We need a shared foundation of what we, as a people, value.

I’m not talking about whitewashed American history or patriotic propaganda, but I am talking about holding up the values we want to strive for, even if we have failed to live up to them in the past: freedom, justice, liberty, democracy.

The peaceful transfer of power is a benchmark for how stable a democracy is. The first peaceful transfer of power in a new democracy is hailed as a milestone in democratization and a sign of a functioning civil society. It is the norm in America, but dozens of countries have never had a successful peaceful transition of power. Just because it has been the norm does not mean we can’t lose it. It must be instilled and defended, as any other value.

Since 1801, presidents have peacefully transferred power to a new president of a differing party. It was an early test of the great experiment. A leader of a nation was not a king or a tyrant who held on to power. It did not take assassination or revolt to overthrow him. The people spoke, and he willing handed over his role to his rival. Because the country and democracy was more important than one man or even one party. (And the 1800 election was incredibly close.) Over time the transition became more bureaucratic and more ritualized. There are the behind-the-scenes details like security clearances and Cabinet picks and budgets. But the rituals are for the public, to reassure them that the government is strong enough to continue through a peaceful transition, that we can change out our leaders without chaos and violence.

There is an election. The loser calls the winner to concede and congratulate. The winner calls for post-election unity. The outgoing administration helps the incoming administration with resources and logistics. On the first Monday after the second Wednesday in December, the electoral college votes, finalizing the election period. Then on January 20, at noon (so each term is exactly the same length), the new president is sworn in, often with the former president there to support him. Then the former administration leaves peacefully for the new administration to take over.

Seeing these rituals are important. They teach us, as any ritual does. The process is more important than one party. The people are more powerful than one person. We are a nation capable of peacefully choosing our leaders. Those fundamentals matter. And the rituals don’t seem that important under you see the fundamentals start to disappear. Doubt and discord threaten our peacefulness. We start seeing how easy it all falls apart if we can’t agree to work together. The tie that binds is untied.

Our hold on any value or tradition is always less than a generation away of being lost. We must not be complacent and expect that everything will always remain the same and stable. Times will change, and we must conscientiously carry our values on through. Rituals remind us of what matters, teaches us who we are as a people, and instills our values in each repetition.

St. Martin de Porres


St. Martin de Porres in 1579 in Lima, Peru. His father was a Spanish nobleman and his mother was a freed slave of African and native decent. His parents weren’t married, and after his sister was born two years later, his father abandoned the family. He grew up in poverty.

Under Peruvian law, those of African and native decent were not allowed to become full members of religious orders. At 15, Martin asked the local Dominicans to accept him as a “donado,” a lay volunteer/servant who worked in the monastery in return for living with the community and wearing their habit. He did kitchen work, laundry, and cleaning. In 1603, the prior decided to ignore the law and allowed Martin to take vows as a third order Dominican. While the prior showed him kindness, other brothers mocked him for being mulatto, illegitimate, and descended from slaves.

He was assigned to the infirmary, where he cared for the sick and became known for his (sometimes miraculous) healing and patience. He also ministered to the sick outside of the monastery and showed no distinction between status or race.

He lived an austere life beyond the rule of the Dominicans. He did not eat meat and begged for alms to feed the poor. He also founded a residence for orphans and abandoned children and raised dowries for poor girls. He was beloved in Lima, and it was said he was gifted with many miracles, including bilocation, instant cures, miraculous knowledge, and an ability to communicate with animals.

St. Martin de Porres died on Nov. 3, 1639 after suffering almost a year of illness. His feast day is (appropriately this year) Nov. 3. He is the patron of mixed-race people, innkeepers, public health workers, public schools, social justice, and those seeking racial harmony.

Wait for It

Time has gone a little wonky in 2020. Since March, we’ve all experienced differing phases of lockdown. Events are postponed. We’re told to wait. Wait for the numbers to dip before going out. Wait for a vaccine before resuming public life.

Last week was even more waiting. Wait for the votes to be counted. Wait for the call to be made. Wait for our future to be declared. The country waited, if impatiently. Sleepless nights. Doom scrolling. Constant text messages from our pandemic isolations. Any news? Any signs? Praying for the best; bracing for the worse. Trying to keep up hope without getting our hopes up. No deadline. Perpetual March. Perpetual Tuesday.

It’s been a test of patience, prudence, and charity. Learning to live in the waiting and appreciate the wait. Working to do the right thing at the right time. Trying to love those who oppose you, who refuse the wait, and who work actively against the common good.

Advent begins in a few weeks, but this whole year has been an advent. Something is coming. We do not know the day or hour. But we must be patient. We must be ready.

The reading this past Sunday was the parable of the ten virgins. It reminds us to stay vigilant and ready. Something is coming. We can get fatigued in our exile. We can get turned off by the bombardment of distractions and lies. In the parable both the wise and foolish virgins fall asleep. That’s inevitable. But we must be prepared at all times so when we are called, we can wake up and answer. Change doesn’t come when we want it or when we expect it. Healing, justice, and the Messiah is coming. Just wait for it.