Suffering is a
two-edged sword, and it often hurts like one. It is universally experienced in
one form or another and yet massively misunderstand. It stands as an
impediment, to our health, our happiness, our best selves, our securest
beliefs. How can I go on when I’m in pain? How can God be loving and allow
suffering? Just, why?
It’s part of the
human condition; it’s part of the fallen world; it can unite us closer to
Christ. All true statements that don’t mean much when someone is actually in
distress. They just want the pain to stop, and the philosophizing about it can
come after.
Today’s society sees
no ambiguity in pain: it is bad. You have the right to never suffer. Drink,
eat, fuck, shop—find the distraction that works best. Take pain medication. Take
more. Have the doctor assist you in your suicide. The world is too painful. It
would have been better if you had never had to suffer at all. It would be
better if that child never has to suffer. It would be better if the disabled
were gone instead of suffering. It would be better if their caregivers were
free of their burdens. A better world has no suffering, but it seems to have a
lot of death.
The idea of
pain-free life actually diminishes life, because then life that is not
pain-free seems inadequate and futile. St. John Paul II said in Evangelium Vitae, “In a social and
cultural context which makes it more difficult to face and accept suffering,
the temptation becomes all the greater to resolve the problem of suffering by
eliminating it at the root, by hastening death so that it occurs at the moment
considered most suitable.”
The cases for
abortion or euthanasia makes compelling emotional arguments. People are in pain
and distress; they are suffering. Of course their choice is understandable. You wouldn’t want to
suffer in their place, would you? Life is hard enough; why make it harder?
That God allows
suffering is one of the hardest parts of the faith for many to accept. Wouldn’t
an all-loving, all-powerful God make pain stop? The answer is that the world is
broken; it causes pain. By allowing us freewill, God allows pain to continue.
But pain and suffering can be used to bring about good. They draw us closer to
God and to one another. When you understand suffering, you understand the need
for people to be loved. In pain, you stand with Christ in his passion, with the
martyrs in their last moments, with all others who are hurting.
God does not want us
to suffering; he does not delight in pain. But he is pleased in our endurance in
faith. He is pleased with the hope we hold. He is pleased by the love and
compassion we express. Pain is our weakness; the endurance of it is our
strength.
Society fears pain
so much that it lashes out, promoting addictive drugs or behaviors—to the point
of promoting death. Rather, we as a society should help one another endure the
pain. True mercy is holding the hand of one hurting, not throwing them away.
True dignity loves a person, no matter their circumstance. When one is in
turmoil, it sometimes takes several others to help her endure. That’s the
importance of community.
"All the science of the Saints is included in these two things: To do, and to suffer. And whoever had done these two things best, has made himself most saintly." -St. Francis de Sales
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