Today is the feast of St. Joseph, spouse of Mary, foster father of Jesus, protector of the Church, terror of demons. My devotion to St. Joseph has grown over the years. He’s such a role model of good masculinity—supportive, loving, steady, strong without being overbearing. I love how he's often shown carrying the child Jesus, an active and attentive father.
Toxic masculinity is present in so many arenas these days. I’m
not going to try to analyze what led us here. But there is a large, loud
culture that praises bullying, distains women, and places value in material
conquests. It baffles me that so many find the leaders and influencers of this
movement appealing. Their over-charged, steroid-fueled bravado looks like weak
posturing to me.
Men who are actually strong and comfortable with themselves have no need to study how to be a “real man” or publicly proclaim their own masculinity. Joseph never said a word in the Bible. He doesn’t need to.


